I want to know how someone who is so disciplined in most areas of her life can be so undisciplined when it comes to food and exercise. Can anyone explain that to me?
I am so disciplined when it comes to managing money, taking medication, seeing doctors and the dentist and even getting the laundry done!! So why can’t I stay away from food, especially the wrong kinds, and get more exercise?
Why discipline is needed
I need to lose weight. I was in this same predicament 16 years ago and I was able to lose 35 pounds. It wasn’t easy at first, but it became easier over time. I remember being so disciplined with both eating and exercise. I was able to find something in myself that propelled me towards the right behaviors and most of the time, I didn’t feel deprived.
So why can’t I generate that now?
It’s definitely easier when you live alone but that’s too easy of an excuse. Even with candy and other bad things around all the time, I should be able to walk by and leave it alone. But it seems the more I know I shouldn’t eat it, the more I want to eat it. And then I do.
Two years ago, when I was going through a rough patch with my vertigo, I stopped eating chocolate and sugar. I don’t know that it helped the vertigo, but it made a huge difference in my weight. I lost about 15 pounds over that winter. But I don’t want losing weight to require something like that.
I feel so much better when I’m at a lower weight. Why can’t I follow this mantra – nothing tastes as good as skinny feels? Because it’s a lie. It does taste as good!! Maybe even better?
I’m not usually an instant gratification person, but for some reason, when it comes to that piece of candy that I know isn’t good for me, I’ll eat it anyway. And I’m not very good with moderation. I’m better off eating nothing than trying to have just a little bit.
I know my diet has a bigger impact on my weight than exercise, but that doesn’t mean the exercise isn’t important. As I’ve blogged about before, I always feel better when it’s done. It’s getting started that takes all the effort for me. And what could be easier than hopping on the treadmill while I watch a favorite TV show? Tim has that kind of discipline. What’s wrong with me?
I know it’s a lifestyle change. I did it before and I can do it again. But I
Developing goals and good habits
According to this article, I can improve my willpower by simply using it. Temptations will get easier to avoid over time. In my head, I know that’s true. But emotionally, eating is just too satisfying.
I need to set small and realistic goals. That’s possible too. But it seems something always gets in the way. And then it’s hard to start up again. So, it’s important that I don’t let setbacks lead to permanent changes and the same bad habits. I need to be accepting of these setbacks but forget them and move on.
Another article lists five things to do to improve self-discipline. The thing is – I know what to do. Will these things help me do it? Self-discipline is learned and requires practice. Anything new is always tough at first, so it’s important to hang in there.
Remove temptations. Yes, I know that’s what I need to do. This is the part that’s easier when it’s just you. But the last thing I want to do is impose my lack of willpower on Tim. He loves my baking and I love doing it for him, so that can’t stop. I will identify those temptations I can eliminate and then work hard to resist the others.
Eat regularly and healthily. I think I do OK most of the day. I’m bad in the late afternoon and evening. In the afternoon, I actually get hungry so I need to find healthier snacks. In the evening, I think eating is just a bad habit.
You’d think with my needlework and busy hands I’d be able to resist but it doesn’t seem to stop me. I also will chew gum to distract me from eating but I don’t want to do that all the time.
The other problem is eating out. We like to eat out a couple of times a week and almost always lunch on Sundays and Mondays when Tim is off work. I’m not as worried about lunch, however, and I just need to make sure I’m making healthy choices. Unlike the french fries I had this week at Smokey D’s. They have THE best fries. I could eat them as a meal!!
Don’t wait for it to “feel right”. Habits take a while to develop, so for a while, I need to do what feels wrong. Actually, for me it’s not that doing the right thing feels wrong. It just doesn’t feel as good!!
I think it’s less about feeling right and more about feeling normal. I need to make the right choices and over time, they’ll become my normal habits and “feel right”.
Schedule breaks, treats and rewards for yourself. I should give myself permission to have a special day as a reward. The problem is, soon every day can become “special”. So I need to be even more disciplined about choosing what my treats are and when I get them. Then, no cheating the other times.
Forgive yourself and move forward. It’s back to not letting setbacks derail me. But if I’m not careful, a one day setback can turn into seven days. And then I’ve lost all discipline again.
I have to tell myself each day when I get up that it’s a new day and it doesn’t matter what happened yesterday. Today will be better!!
So, where do you lack discipline? Or are you great at resisting everything that’s bad for you? Any advice?
Please send your positive vibes. I need all the help I can get!!
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