I’ve always been pretty introverted but I’m starting to wonder if I’m becoming even more so. Has retirement allowed me to become too comfortable in my own little introvert world?
Am I reclusive?
My answer to that question would be no, I’m not reclusive. I’m not trying to escape from society, although it seems there’s a lot to escape from these days!!!
I simply like being at home. We just had a very social three day weekend. It was all very fun and I enjoyed every minute. But today, I’m ready to be home alone, even enjoying the laundry and other chores.
A day like this means I can focus on the things I like without having to talk to anyone (except Brutus, who talks back but doesn’t ask me questions).
I will admit, if it weren’t for Tim, it would be SO easy for me to become a little bit reclusive. Sometimes, I feel better when he gets me out of the house, even if it’s just for a quick dinner. The only negative is I have to change out of my comfy clothes. 😆
Am I rigid?
Am I inflexible or unchangeable? I don’t think that’s me either, although there are times when I have a plan and I don’t want to change it. But is that being rigid?
Tim’s days off these last few weeks have been variable. As a result, I’ve had to adjust my plans so I have time to spend with him. I’ve done fine with that and even enjoyed mixing things up a little.
But I will admit, this week’s back to “normal” and I kind of like it. While I don’t think I’m rigid, I do like routine. I have a set morning routine, which sometimes suffers due to early morning obligations. That’s OK. I adapt. And then I try to avoid anything before 10:00 in the future!! 😉
Besides, Brutus prefers our routine too. It messes up his day when things don’t go as they usually do. Good excuse, right?
As we age
I’ve read that everyone becomes more introverted as we age, even extroverts. What surprised me, though, was that this begins in our 30s.
As we settle into our adult lives, some of our extroverted activities become less appealing. We’re satisfied sticking closer to home and being with our families or a few close friends.
I realize some people will always be extreme extroverts and want to be out and about constantly. But most people will be happy spending more time alone or with family and friends.
When I was working, there were weekends when I didn’t leave my house. At the time, I didn’t realize how being an introvert impacted my physical and mental well being. I was always worn out by the end of the week which I now attribute to all the people stimulation from the week.
It’s definitely easier for me to feel more introverted now that I’m retired. I could go days without leaving the house and not feel bad about it. That doesn’t mean I don’t like to do things outside of the house but I’ve learned to schedule them sparingly.
I look forward to both the days when I have no place to go and when I get to see friends or run a few errands.
Does it matter?
You know what, it doesn’t matter!! As long as I’m happy, it’s all good. This is one of the reasons I’ve said retirement is perfect for me. It’s not about becoming more introverted; it’s finally feeling comfortable as an introvert.
Years ago, I found this quote in a Real Simple magazine. I cut it out and it’s been on my bulletin board ever since. Even then, I knew I was destined for the happiness of retired life as an introvert.
“We should all do what, in the long run, gives us joy, even if it is only picking grapes or sorting the laundry.”E.B. White
Introvert or extrovert, we should all find what gives us joy and do more of it. That’s all that really matters.