How many of you have heard of the concept of having a “word of the year” or WOTY? I hadn’t until recently. A few of the bloggers I follow are talking about what their words are for 2020. I wasn’t sure if it was for me, but then one day, the right word came to me. Or close to the right word anyway.
Initially, I thought my word should be ADJUST. I was all set to go with it until I thought, is ADAPT an even better word? I looked up their definitions to see if that helped me pick the best word.
- to change (something) so that it fits, corresponds, or conforms; adapt; accommodate: to adjust expenses to income.
- to put in good working order; regulate; bring to a proper state or position: to adjust an instrument.
- to settle or bring to a satisfactory state, so that parties are agreed in the result: to adjust our differences
- to make suitable to requirements or conditions; adjust or modify fittingly: They adapted themselves to the change quickly. He adapted the novel for movies.
- to adjust oneself to different conditions, environment, etc.: to adapt easily to all circumstances.
As you can see, they seem to be used interchangeably since each is included in the other’s definition. So, the differences are slight. But I think possibly Adapt is the better word for me. I read that adjust is more temporary in nature, while adapt is a longer-term change. And I think that’s what I’m looking for.
I started thinking of other words that would describe ways to adapt. Words like flexible, compromise, and change. All of these things are necessary as I adapt in 2020.
Why is Adapt good for me in 2020?
There will be many changes in our lives this year. Some we are aware of and some will likely blindside us. Tim’s injury in November definitely blindsided us and will require several adaptations as we move forward.
I’m choosing to look at it as a way for us to begin preparing for his retirement later in 2020. Having him around for the last two months has definitely shown us we need some type of plan.
The biggest thing we need to do is manage our expectations and come to some type of agreement or compromise around those. We’ve already had a few conversations but there will be many more to come. I’ve actually started a list of questions I want us both to answer separately and then compare. This process should ensure we’re considering all the right things as we define and adapt to our “new normal”.
Areas that will require my WOTY
I’ll plan to write in more detail about these as we adapt throughout 2020. For now, these are the areas we’ll need to focus on. Here’s a link to the post I wrote about Preparing for My Husband’s Retirement.
- Routine – mine, his, ours
- Finances – losing Tim’s income
- Diet – what we should and shouldn’t eat, eating out
- Parents – needing more assistance
- Recovery vs. retirement – disability vs. leaving the workforce
- Preparing to be snowbirds – where, how long
- Sleeping – schedule, quality
- Managing expectations – getting in sync
As the year progresses, other areas could surface. I didn’t list exercise as it’s somewhat embedded in routine and diet. But I know there are changes I’d like to make once Tim retires such as getting a bike so we could ride together. He can already tell he’ll need to make changes once he’s no longer walking 10 miles a day!! 🙄
Does having a WOTY make a difference?
I’ve wondered about that. I’m hoping that it will. When I’m faced with a situation that’s creating stress, I want to tell myself it’s time to adapt. Stressing is not worth it.
I’m not saying adapting will be easy. I already know it isn’t easy for me to give up my 40 hours/week of “me time”. But I also know Tim respects that plus I’ll want to do more together. Like bike riding.
I may post my WOTY somewhere in my house. Maybe multiple places. Where might I need a reminder?
If you’re interested in learning more about choosing a WOTY, check out this link. I like how she talks about a WOTY being better than a resolution because it can cover so much more and it’s tougher to break.
Find your Word for 2020!!
Let me know if you decide to choose your word for 2020. And I’ll let you know how I do with mine throughout the year.
Happy New Year!!!